tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-69272969083689368952024-03-14T05:12:52.186-07:00Simple Pages of Klaksmall tokens of lifeThe Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.comBlogger47125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-17259027149619834282012-09-02T04:09:00.000-07:002012-09-02T04:19:06.817-07:00New in Town-1It's Jakarta<br />
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Why does the sky look different? The air is congested with hundred different smells. There a small place to eat next to a big garbage bin. The noise. Why does everyone have to yell? There's a pirated CD shop next to a Buddhist temple. Everyone, even those who are still learning to utter words, speaks up. Craving for attention? Perhaps. After all we were all crying when we first breathed the air.<br />
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I stood still. Trying my best to comprehend, to compromise, to understand, to bear with the complexities. 'Reverse culture shock is tricky' the psychologist once told me . I didn't argue. I wanted to. I know he's right. But I won't show it. I'm too old for blame game, even with a city which everyone has a love and hate relationship, even with a country where nothing seems to be working. And I'm too proud to victimize myself.<br />
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I gazed around. Trying to feel the rhythm. I had hope, I still do, though it's shrinking, that one day I could dance around with this city, not fight. But I know to do that, I have to compromise, to give up something, or even to give in?? Only, what are the things I need to sacrifice and let go? 'It's gonna be a big adjustment' he said. Is he adjusting too, at this moment? More and more I sense that what this city wants are the things I want to keep for myself.<br />
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I forced a smile. Trying to sympathise this city, its people. After all, they're just looking for happiness, for life, for reason to smile. What makes me different to them? It seems to me, every single space of this part of the earth is cultivated. There's a stubborn energy to keep on trying. 'I'm busy surviving, Clara' he said. Everyone is rushing, pushing, aiming, though with no purpose. Some with the power of money are getting there faster. But has anyone ever asked where are we going. What is the destination? Is it where we want to go? Is it where I want to go? <br />
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<br />The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com0Jakarta Capital Region, Indonesia-6.211544 106.845172-6.464111 106.52931500000001 -5.958977 107.161029tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-35936529603014261782012-07-22T02:40:00.000-07:002012-09-03T02:42:15.801-07:00In the motionIn the motion <br />
(written in the plane on the way back home)<br />
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so, here i am in the plane going back home<br />
tired, sleepless, a bit hungry<br />
<br />
things start to change<br />
more people speak the language that sounds alien and familiar at the same time<br />
i swing between addressing people with english and with indonesian<br />
<br />
the sky changes from Australian sky to Indonesian<br />
the ocean I fly above<br />
and soon the soil I land on and the air I breathe<br />
<br />
don't ask about my feeling<br />
i wish i could pick up one like i pick up a dress<br />
choose one that suits me<br />
<br />
things start to change<br />
i will catch upThe Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com0Darwin NT 0800, Australia-12.4628198 130.8417694-12.4783243 130.8220284 -12.4473153 130.86151040000001tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-21298993577855100872012-04-20T03:53:00.001-07:002012-04-20T03:53:44.981-07:00Sophie: A Tale of Love and Violence<p>‘<em>You must leave him. He’ll only hurt you’</em></p><p><em>‘No, I love him. You don’t understand love, Clara! If you do, you wouldn’t break up with your ex just because afraid of being hurt’</em></p><p>Saya tersentak. Begitulah percakapan saya dan teman saya, Sophie* berakhir. Usaha saya meyakinkan Sophie untuk meninggalkan pacarnya yang tidak hanya <em>mentally</em> tapi juga <em>physically violent</em>, membentur tembok.</p><p>Sophie adalah seorang perempuan Fiji yang bekerja sebagai asisten administrasi di RRRT (Regional Rights Resource Team), tempat saya magang selama tiga bulan. Usianya tak jauh beda dari saya. Walaupun tak punya gelar segudang, Sophie, menurut saya benar-benar cerdas. Sophie seringkali mematahkan argumen saya (yang di-<em>back up</em> oleh teori-teori yang saya pelajari) dengan menunjukkan dimensi lain yang saya tak pernah pikirkan.</p><p>Percakapan ini terjadi di minggu pertama 2012. Seminggu sebelumnya, di hari pertama <em>ngantor</em>, Sophie datang dengan beberapa luka di wajahnya. Salah satu matanya biru. Alasannya, dia terjatuh dari tangga. Dan saya percaya. Mungkin itulah alasan mengapa besoknya Sophie bercerita tentang pacarnya ke saya. Dari saat itu saya tahu betapa kasarnya pacar Sophie, George. Saat itu Sophie mengutarakan niat untuk berpisah dari pacarnya. Saya mendukung.</p><p>Selang beberapa hari kemudian Sophie absen dari kantor. Supervisor saya menanyakan keberadaannya karena saya dinilai dekat dengan Sophie. Respon saya, ‘<em>hello, you know her for years already’</em>. Tapi katanya, Walaupun semua staf mahfum dengan kasarnya George, Sophie tak pernah bercerita tentang George kepada siapapun kecuali saya. Saya panik. Saya telepon sana-sini (hp sophie disita George). Mulai dari ibunya, neneknya (Sophie anak tunggal <em>of an amazing single mom</em>), temannya, semua tanpa hasil. Besoknya Sophie kembali ke kantor, kali ini mengutarakan niatnya untuk menikah dengan George.</p><p>Setelah percakapan itu saya kembali ke meja kerja dan harus menulis laporan tentang bagaimana undang-undang dapat mengurangi angka kekerasan terhadap perempuan. <em>Yeah, right!!</em> Di depan saya adalah Sophie yang mengerti tentang HAM, gender, feminisme dan bekerja di LSM yang memperjuangkan hak-hak perempuan. Dan satu kata, cinta, <em>a mere feeling</em>, bisa menegasikan semua hal itu. Hari itu saya merenung panjang.</p><p>Sophie, tentu saja, tak sendiri. Di Pasifik, termasuk Fiji, kekerasan fisik terhadap perempuan dialami oleh tak kurang dari 68 persen perempuan (UNWOMEN 2011). Jangan tanya tentang kekerasan mental (Tak hanya perempuan sebenarnya. Saya punya seorang teman dekat pria yang pernah terjebak <em>in a mentally abusive relationship)</em>. Banyak LSM, termasuk RRRT mengusahakan berbagai strategi untuk mengurangi angka ini dan mengadvokasi hak asasi perempuan. Tapi apalah arti semua ini, jika sebagian besar hak perempuan dinegosiasikan dalam ranah privat, seperti hubungan romantis atau keluarga. Dan seringkali solusi yang diberikan membebani, mendiskreditkan dan menyalahkan perempuan yang menjadi korban. Seperti Sophie pernah bertanya pada saya, ‘<em>Do you think I am stupid for falling in love with George</em>?’</p><p>Tapi ini tidak hanya terjadi di Pasifik yang terkenal dengan budaya patriakisnya**. Di Australia, saya berteman Nicole yang memiliki <em>partner</em> yang <em>mentally abusive</em>. Nicole tak diperbolehkan bekerja padahal Nicole sangat menyadari potensinya. <em>Partner</em>-nya merasa tersaingi, begitu observasi Nicole. Nicole memutuskan untuk bercerai. Sebuah kesempatan bekerja di ANU memaksanya untuk memilih. Berat. Nicole membawa Terry, putrinya, hijrah ke Canberra, dan harus rela terpisah dari Damien, putranya yang memutuskan tinggal dengan ayahnya di Brisbane.</p><p>Selain Nicole, saya juga berteman dengan Allison yang memutuskan berpisah dari suaminya, setahun setelah anak pertama (dan satu-satunya) lahir. Sekarang putranya berusia 12 tahun, dan teman saya ini tetap <em>single</em> sampai sekarang. Lagi-lagi berat. Tapi ini tak memudarkan niatnya untuk mengaktualisasikan diri. Malahan, <em>being single</em>, menurutnya memudahkan dia untuk mengejar mimpi-mimpinya dan tinggal di banyak negara, mulai dari Cina, Amerika, hingga kini Australia. <em>She’s a qualified nurse and social worker with law and public policy degree. What could be more? And in doing so, she provides her son with a lot of great experiences</em>.</p><p>Tapi tanya mereka, apakah keputusan untuk meninggalkan abusive partner itu mudah? <em>A big NO is what you get</em>. Butuh bertahun-tahun dan kesempatan emas di ANU untuk Nicole berani bercerai. Butuh sakit hati berkepanjangan dan dukungan keluarga untuk Gladys berani berpisah. Tanya mereka, seberapa dalam perasaan mereka kepada <em>partner</em>-nya? <em>Chances are, they will say, ‘Of course I love him’</em>.</p><p>Jika Nicole dan Gladys berakhir dengan manis, saya belum tahu apa yang bakal terjadi dengan Sophie. Karena takut kehilangan kepercayaannya (nantinya kalau ada apa-apa dengan dia, Sophie tak mau cerita lagi), saya berusaha menerima kehadiran George. Beberapa kali kita <em>clubbing</em>, saya dan seorang teman lain harus rela ‘dikawal’ oleh George dan bermanis-manis ria karena jika tidak, Sophie harus menanggung konsekuensinya. Di <em>farewell party</em> saya, George hadir. Betapa saya ingin mengatakan <em>‘Leave her alone’, but instead I said, ‘Please treat her well’</em>.</p><p>Saya masih harus belajar banyak. Dulu, saya selalu percaya bahwa manusia itu rasional dan kalkulatif (<em>no wonder I never work out my relationship</em> :P). Namun, Sophie memaksa saya untuk meredefinisikan perspektif saya. Seperti kala itu, Sophie menunjukkan bahwa <em>feelings, no matter how irrational they might be, are integral part of human decision</em>.</p><p>*Semua nama adalah nama samaran</p><p><em>**</em>Ada beberapa yang berargumen definisi budaya patriakis yang umum digunakan sangat simplistik. Perempuan Samoa misalnya mempunyai power yang besar tergantung posisinya di dalam sebuah klan. Segregasi <em>public and private</em> juga memberikan keuntungan buat mobilitas perempuan dan menentukan peran krusial mereka dalam masyarakat. Intinya kalau perempuan mogok masak, tak ada pekerjaan <em>public</em> yang bisa terselesaikan. Banyak yang berpendapat urbanisasi dan industrialisasi-lah yang menciptakan ruang kekerasan thd perempuan.</p>The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-83641349871341766142012-01-08T01:16:00.000-08:002012-01-08T01:28:49.755-08:00In the best 'pose' of the children<div style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; outline-style: none; outline-width: initial; outline-color: initial; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; text-align: justify; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); "><div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="text-align: left; ">How many times, in a day, you see children? How many times, in a week, you interact with them? Answers will be vary. Have kids on your own, most probably you have to deal with them every day. A teacher? Monday to Friday.</span></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Again, how many times in a day, when you are surfing the magic world of internet, you stumble upon some pictures of cute children with all their cheeky grins? Crying, playing, laughing, bathing, eating, sleeping. And in second, you found yourselves, like me, going, 'Aaaaah...' with eyes softened and eyebrows curving down. They are just so adorable, aren't they?</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Images of children are everywhere. TV (most ads now use kids, even for product that children don't use or has nothing to do with children), radio, newspaper, magazine (how many magz are now dedicated to 'smart and sensible' parents? With glossy pages of proud good-looking mom and dad pose with their kids in oh-so-adorable-outfits), pamflet or business logo or NGOs' reports (from the appeal for war-torn kids in Afghanistan to NGOs' new hips of smiling African girls), and of course, your daily supply of online media.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">On my facebook, I have some friends who are (recently) taking role as mothers (and it seems that the number grows exponentially every year, higher speed and soon I'll be attending christening rather than wedding -alone *sigh). Everyday, there'll always be two or three of them post pictures of their children doing stuff. Cute!!! I have to admit, although sometimes it gets too much. One of my friends irritates me (no I don't storm it out at her) by posting almost every single move of her son, from getting up in the morning, sleeping peacefully, crying, fighting, eating, sitting idly after eating, opening the gifts. Really, the same expose MJ's children or Surie Cruise would get, had the paparazzi be given full access. Oh ya don't forget mum's comment to stuff the context!</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">But why bother? Surely 6yo Bonnie is her son? It's not like all these moms are trying to do harm to their children. And it's facebook, where your friends are supposedly people you know, right? So what's the harm? Most comments on the pics came from close friends (because only close friends bother to sneak into your page hahaha). No weirdo would going to copy the pics and what? distribute? using them for dodgy stuff? Well, god forbids so, but who knows?</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">But no, my argument against posting your cute ones pics on facebook is NOT based on rare-but-it-does-happen act of phedophils. It's about privacy, that your kids are individual who have rights to privacy, just like you, me, your husbands, and billions others adults. Want something solid? Well, the Convention on the Rights of Children (as contestable as it is) stipulates the children's rights to privacy. And CRC, my friends, is the only human rights convention, all the countries have signed and ratified (except, our beloved US and Somalia).</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Contrary to some would insist, children do understand privacy, although not in mainstrem-adult-way of defining or understanding it. Children, too, have their comfort and private zone. Remember, the time when you have that cheesy flowery diary with that smell of cheap-soap and you'd rather die than someone (esp. parents) have a look and read it?? That's privacy. All the secrets things that children hide (although parents insist on openness and honesty). They might not be things that matter for adult (how many times as a kid, your parents laugh at your best kept secrets when you were eventually game enough to share it?), but they do matter to us as kids, no less matter than they are to your children.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">In current social media, privacy is a big and constantly debated concept. New social media like facebook or twitter that connect digitally-literate people of all ages (as you can always defy your age. my two youngest siblings, age 10 and 12, have facebook), and share information captured in words and pictures to all your friends. And they are there for only Mark Zuckenberg (and few others) knows how long. In facebook, with current higher privacy setting, you can control whom you share information with, and if your friend mind enough to pay you the luxury of courtesy, they'll tag you and inform you when shared information are posted. And you can either reject it or not. Although, what happen if they're not sensitive enough (some ppl think they own the complete rights to shared pictures just because their faces are also captured)? Similarly, adults are considered well-informed of the consequences of their presence in public spot or at least, when someone take your picture. Taking someone picture in public spot is another issue to discuss, something that I don't have enough knowledge.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">So, imagine 1 yo old daughter and I, as a happy proud mom just want to share the joy of me having her to my friends. Facebook is the place, isn't it? And how, being mindful of the my daughter's privacy, do I ask for her consent? After all, she's only 12 months, the only word she can utter is 'mommy'.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">No easy way. Back to CRC, acknowledging that children might not have all that it takes to make sound decision (this is too, debatable) considering the complexity of decision one can make sometimes, CRC provides the (overly-abused) principle of 'the best interest of the children'. This principle, although contestable and vague, is probably the only venue of guidance I can think of now. This principle lends space for adult to make decision for children, done in the manner of utmost consideration of (1) children's opinion and (2) their best interest. Assumptions are the one who make decision, knows better and has good intention. Remember the way your parents said to you, 'This is for your own good!' That's it, they're using the same justification, i mean, principle. But again, the principle begs the question of interpretation. Adult and children, no matter how close is their relationship, have different interpretations. And not to mention, the difficulty in defining 'interest' and measuring the scale of 'best'.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Best interest of children and their opinions. If your children are smart enough to comprehend the internet (and what it means by mommy putting your singing pictures in her facebook), ask their opinion or rather seek their permissions!! If your children, are too young to understand or for some other reasons cannot understand, think twice, deeply! Would this picture embarrass my son? Now, three years or thirteen years later? If I were him, at his age (or later) would I be happy if someone share my picture in my swimmer to 600 others people that I don't know (think hundreds times if you are a narcissistic person)?</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Sounds too much, or too progressive. Not really. Children by the age of 4 or 5 can understand that anything with their image on it is, to some extent, their possession. They have opinion of what to do with it, which pictures are okay to show to people (not the one I wore that stupid bunny outfits), and to whom. So chances are, three years from now, the picture of your 1 yo daughter will still be accessible (remember no one knows how long facebook and internet keep all our information) and they might disagree on your decision putting the pics on facebook. After all, it's the token of their lives that you are sharing, something that they have full ownership of.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div></div><div style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; outline-style: none; outline-width: initial; outline-color: initial; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px; text-align: justify; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); ">-that way, next time i procrastinate by flicking your children's picture, I don't feel guilty hehehehe-</div>The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-65006935529905375372011-11-10T15:25:00.000-08:002011-11-10T15:32:46.811-08:00Dear 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mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family:Arial; mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidi;} </style> <![endif]--> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;text-align: justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><span style="line-height: 115%;font-family:"Arial","sans-serif";mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-bidi-mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidifont-family:Arial;font-size:100%;" >Clara! </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;text-align: justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><span style="line-height: 115%;font-family:"Arial","sans-serif";mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-bidi-mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidifont-family:Arial;font-size:100%;" >I don't know if it is your story or if it is your writing, or may be both. But, your e-mail is remarkably riveting and engaging, as evident from the passion with which it is written. </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="line-height: 115%; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";font-family:Arial;font-size:100%;" ><br /></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;text-align: justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><span style="line-height: 115%;font-family:"Arial","sans-serif";mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-bidi-mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidifont-family:Arial;font-size:100%;" >T is going through a phase which is not very different from what you are going through - strange land, huge opportunities, new relationships, uncertain future. It is natural for people in the school to see both of you and form their own understanding of where you both are in terms of your academic careers. As for you, it is important to recognise the signs of competition, and to acknowledge the feelings and frustrations that accompany them. Instead of having to score points to assert dominance within competition, one can go a long way by saying to themselves that they have nothing to lose. Your life is ahead of you, many opportunities are ahead of you, and competition can only make your life better if you are able to handle it healthily by seeing opportunities through them. I always use the analogy of the government and the opposition. You govern your life. Outside competition although, can influence your life which you govern. Whilst most governments tend to defend their point of view by justifying their views as better, a good government takes the criticisms and challenges as opportunities for shaping and expanding their vision. There is nothing here for you to prove, nothing to defend, nothing to lose and a hell of a lot to gain. So use this T episode to identify what you have learnt through this, and utilise it to shape your vision for your life. It could even include simple things like: who are my real friends? How do I learn to handle competition effectively? How can I handle situations without running away from them, denying them or sweeping them under the carpet? etc etc. I think you are learning lots through this, and I am very optimistic that you will learn more as days go by. </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="line-height: 115%; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";font-family:Arial;font-size:100%;" ><br /></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;text-align: justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><span style="line-height: 115%;font-family:"Arial","sans-serif";mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-bidi-mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidifont-family:Arial;font-size:100%;" >Coming to your questions about me. Yes, I am applying to Oxford and Cambridge for a Master’s degree which will eventually lead into a PhD. My topic of research will be to expand on the God/humanity/creation interrelation in the Old Testament scriptures, focusing on psalms, proverbs, Ecclesiastes and Job. I will certainly be applying for scholarship, without which, I will find it very hard. I stare at Sophie's world every day. It is on my bed, begging to be read. I have been getting 2 hours sleep each night of late, which is why Sophie continues to wait for me. The same applies to Le Petite Prince, which is why I am kind of looking forward to the Christmas holidays. </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="line-height: 115%; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";font-family:Arial;font-size:100%;" ><br /></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;text-align: justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><span style="line-height: 115%;font-family:"Arial","sans-serif";mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-bidi-mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidifont-family:Arial;font-size:100%;" >Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the simplest things. I love to read and hear your stories, and I never see them silly. As a matter of fact I feel privileged that another person's experience can inform and influence my own life. So you and your stories are welcome as ever. </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 0.0001pt; text-align: justify;"><span style="line-height: 115%; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";font-family:Arial;font-size:100%;" ><br /></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0cm;margin-bottom:.0001pt;text-align: justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><span style="line-height: 115%;font-family:"Arial","sans-serif";mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-bidi-mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidifont-family:Arial;font-size:100%;" >Good luck with all your preparations for Fiji. Have a blast. </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="line-height: 115%; font-family: "Arial","sans-serif";font-family:Arial;font-size:100%;" ><br /></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><span style="line-height:115%;font-family:"Arial","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-bidi;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-bidi;mso-bidi-mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidifont-family:Arial;font-size:100%;" >The Piano Man</span></p>The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-61333331652497524322011-11-09T21:43:00.000-08:002011-11-09T21:46:31.050-08:00Dear Piano Man<div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">Dear Piano Man, </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">Not sure why I write this email. Maybe because I feel guilty letting our catch up time consumed with my silly stories (and oh that good 15 mins of me crying my heart out and losing all my guards). and I do want to hear your stories. But thanks anyway </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">So, what's happening in your life? You told me you're applying for PhD? Where? Which universities? What's the topic of your research? Are you applying for scholarship too?Did you read all the books I gave to you? Sophie's world? Le Petite Prince? If so, how do you find them? Is there any interesting bit? Guess, for me those two fictions significantly framed my world views, my narratives (although, the narratives, of course, are constantly changing) </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">Hmm, alright, guess I know now why I'm writing email to you. I need to talk to someone, someone... you. Today has been of a bit of emotional turbulence. I met with my professor who helped me finding and arranging my internship in Fiji (he even arranged accommodation for me, such an ace!!)He introduced me to some members of the organisation that I'll work with. It was nice and good. </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">Then he told me that T came to him and asked him to endorse her internship. Guess I was a bit irritated because of that. Feel like I couldn't escape this girl. And my prof hinted something like, 'I smell you both are so in competition with each other'. Hate that!! I mean now the whole school knows. I just feel it’s inescapable now, everyone will compare us. and I am not strong enough not to resist to be consumed in this pointless comparison and competition. </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">I am so afraid that I would lose my track, and ability to actually 'be here' and enjoy things that I have. I guess in competition, you always look forward to score points, to affirm your advancement against others. This is so pointless and will hinder me to have a genuine interaction. It turns my 'friendship' with T into self-serving interaction to satisfy a selfish and egoistic affirmation of fragile self-definition. Maybe i don't really have a friendship with her since the very beginning. I don't know </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">Well, now I feel better. I've put it into words and I can observe my feelings. I feel lighter and I guess I can start building up my effort to get out of this silly frame.I just feel sad, for the fact, that what I thought was a real friendship or at least what could have been a real friendship is probably a fake one. Will there be any real friendship? how could you tell? Will there be any sincere unselfish relationship? how can you tell? All these things with T make me even more sceptical. I felt I've been fooled. </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">Anyway, now I don't know whether I should hit the send button or not? (click it actually). I decided to send it, for I would like to believe, friendship can happen </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">Have a good day </span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:arial;">Cla</span></div>The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-12960774484222033352011-11-05T21:33:00.000-07:002011-11-05T21:36:20.813-07:00Narratives and advocacy<div style="text-align: justify;">It was slightly out of expectation. Policy Advocacy would not provide their devotees with practicalities of advocacy. There would not be tips and tricks in effective persuasion. Rather, it taught us different attempts to make sense advocacy, to dissect it and its assumptions, to look beyond what is seemingly an obvious matter. Before, I always thought that advocacy was straight forward. Advocacy for me was demonstrations, strikes or boycotts. Advocacy is telling the reality that your government is too blind to see! Indeed, they are examples of persuasion at play. However, advocacy is more complex and subtler than those examples. One thing for sure, advocacy is so pervasive in our lives that we are actually advocates, often unconsciously.<br /><br />Yesterday, I met my boyfriend and talked about the military violence that is happening in West Papua, Indonesia. I told him how paralysed I felt for not being able to do anything. His suggestion is for me to start gathering support from Indonesian students and plan a protest. He suggested that I should write articles, to persuade the Indonesian Student Association to release an official statement to the Australian and Indonesian media. The key, he said, is to wait for the right moment, when the condition gets worse, to execute all the strategies he mentioned. Aha! That's what John Kingdon's calls 'window of opportunity'! All the strategies he formulated are perfect examples of persuasion as 'manoeuvres' of an advocate. He understood that I, an ordinary student, do not have a 'claim to a hearing', a prerequisite of Kingdon's policy entrepreneur. Organisation like the Indonesian Students Association and the media will help me to grab attention. Intelligent as he is, he never heard of Kingdon’s eloquent idea of policy entrepreneurs. But we can see how ideas and practical ways of persuasion are every day’s conversation. One grieve observation is, often to ‘sell’ your cure you must wait until your patient is about to die. Is that a justified trade-off? How can we tell the right moment to push our prescription?<br /><br />Come to think of it, what he did is an advocacy in itself. He was persuading me of what he thought was the best ways to advocate my cause. He was performing an advocacy on how to execute my advocacy. The way he did it was to appeal to my reason or ‘logos’. He laid out the argumentative analysis of how those moves he suggested are the best ways I could possibly exhibit. He also has that ‘ethos’ dimension as an ex-journalist in Australia. He knows how the media works and to utilize it. Add to the ethos his charms and we can tell now whether I was convinced or not.<br /><br />The question then is how to persuade the bulk of mainstream Indonesian students to support my cause to stop violence in Papua? Their ignorance frustrates me. For me, it is obvious that what happens in Papua are human rights violation, developmental failures, and structural discrimination by the state. The evidence is crystal clear. How could most people be blind to those facts?! The answer seems to lie in the narrative approach on advocacy. In fact, the concept of narrative significantly changes my understanding of policy advocacy.<br /><br />Politicians often say, ‘Let me tell you a story’. Indeed, to understand the policy, we need to ask the story first. Narratives help us make sense of a problem by encompassing and interweaving disjointed ideas and values and justifying the decision and policy action (Feldman et al 2004; Fischer 2002). In doing so, narratives blur the boundaries of personal stories with grand theme of a policy and the grand narrative of identities. In narratives, we find a complex interaction between the personal, professional and the public stories. Narratives serve as lenses to filter the ingredients of our construction of 'reality' and truth; so called facts and evidence. Facts and evidence only serve as justification for our narratives; ideas of ‘reality’.<br /><br />Born in an activist family, I have a different narrative from most of my Indonesian peers. My father was a labour activist during Soeharto era. He told me stories of workers who suffered under Soeharto’s policies and his military atrocities. When I was 12, my father told me that my grandfather, his father, was murdered by the military in 1967 because he joined the communist teacher’s movement. So I grew up with deep antagonism toward the government, the military and the dominant narrative of Indonesia as a national identity and a nation. My story is part of the big narrative of struggling victims of government, including Papuan rebels (or heroes?). Now we see how my narratives shape my previous understanding of advocacy. Individuals are the culmination of public and personal stories, a dynamic negotiation of many interrelated narratives.<br /><br />In advocacy, often we need to change the narrative which neither easy nor quick. We need to persuade people to step outside their narratives in order to observe and analyse the narratives onto which they attach personal stories and public roles; to identify and question the assumptions of the plots and values embedded in the grand story. The next step is to convince them that our counter-narrative is worth adopting; that this version of reality will make sense of the problem, and solve it.<br /><br />In Papuan case, this means questioning the grand narrative of Indonesia. What is Indonesia? Who are Indonesians? How did we come to this idea of Indonesia? How do ideas of Indonesia shape my personal story, my identity and political stance; my opinion on Papuan issues? What is my version of Papuan story within the story of Indonesia? The advocacy continues by offering, and convincing people to adopt the counter- narratives where Papuan rebels are the brave protagonists against cruel authorities; that current ideas of Indonesia and being Indonesian are misleading and need to be redefined.<br /><br />Most people will refuse to confront their narratives, let alone change them. To question our narrative is dangerous, both at individual and collective level. At personal level, it shakes our self-definitions and construction of reality; the meaning of our personal lives and roles in public domain; our identities. At collective level, it disturbs our foundation of our imagined collective identity, collective actions and its ways of making sense of our changing environment.<br /><br />At this point, I am so perplexed. If policy heavily depends on narratives, where that leaves advocacy? How to change deeply pervasive narratives? If evidence, truths, facts are instruments of our narratives, what can justify such advocacy to convince others that our narratives, thus our ‘reality’ and evidence, is better (or more real)? Policy Advocacy course leaves me incompetent in answering those provocative questions; questions that might never be answered, or maybe, should not be answered.</div>The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-74882801233432875152011-10-28T18:55:00.000-07:002011-10-28T19:33:59.870-07:00Home: A sanctuary of lifewhat is home for you?<br /><br />Is it a place? For most, we associate home with a concrete building with walls and roofs, with door of which we own the key to enter in. It's stood somewhere where we can point in the map. It has address, either a geo-wise or social-wise direction (33 Antill Street, or next to the church which pastor was accused of having an affair).<br /><br />Is it a person/persons? Family, friends, partners, kids? We say people at home to refer to our families. When we say, "I miss home", often what we mean is, "I miss my family, my comfort zone, people who love me and accept me the way I am, people who mean much to me".<br /><br />Is it a memory? Good, sweet, comforting, securing, encouraging, warm, upsetting? childhood memories? the cute guy next door? when you and mom baked new year's cake in the middle of night? your dad planted a kiss on your forehead? that first kiss with your crush? all the giggles with your friends? maybe<br /><br /><br />What reminds you of home? A smell? of your mom's favorite perfume, of your dad's body odor, of restaurant next door spices, of cheap coffee-to-go, of minyak kayu putih, of a rose. A taste? of a tea, of beef rendang, of Indomie :D. An image? A song? A chant?<br /><br />There's a sense that home should be a fixed entity, be it a place, a person, or a memory. A reservation that remains still, where we can resort, if we get tired of the ups and downs in life. It's always there, somewhere definitive of which we are all equipped with familiar maps and direction. So if Sally gets upset about something, she only needs to think of that sweet memory of her 17th birthday.<br /><br />I don't know, I am not as lucky as Sally. I have bits of all those things, at the same time, none of them. I don't feel belong to any association with home. Medan, it's no longer feel home to me (come to think of it, I wonder, if I ever felt Medan my home?). Jogja, hmm, it's always there, its door always opens. Once I forced it to be my home, tried to shape it, change it, tailor it to my definition of home. I lost. Jogja doesn't feel like home yet, I always want to come back. Tokyo, I don't think it has a place for me there and vice versa. Canberra, it's comforting but don't feel belong here.<br /><br />Family, friends? Well, I am an emotionally independent person. I love them, truly. I just don't feel like coming back. I miss them sometimes, but honestly, what's more important for me is for them to live a happy, fulfilling, peaceful lives without me. I'll love them from a far, sincerely.<br /><br />So what's home for me? Life for me is a journey of constantly refined destination, it's about getting there not being there. I guess if home is where your heart is, it's within me all the time. The life is my heart. My home is on the road, the path, the journey I take. A moving sanctuary of life.The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-31461632476080049732011-06-04T23:36:00.000-07:002011-06-05T00:07:14.638-07:001 Anno CanberraeIt's one year in Canberra (2 days ago, more precisely)<br /><br />So much has happened since June 3rd 2010. I think a year in Canberra has offered me many opportunities to learn so many aspects of life, not only in academic stuff, but more importantly real life lessons.<br /><br />I've met so many people from different backgrounds and I cherish each of them, even the one who did some harm to me. I think, each person life has brought to me, taught me essential clues that I should learn to proceed my journey.<br /><br />I lost some good connections. The distance between me and some people were widened for better. It's a difficult lesson to understand that, sometimes, things are better left abandoned. I guess, it's a part of knowing when to let go, when to fight for maintaining the relationship, and when to change the relationship. Knowing that sometimes things and relationships take on their nature courses, and there's completely nothing wrong with that.<br /><br />Nevertheless, I also have been trying to maintain good relations and to connect and interact more genuinely, less selfishly, with many once-strangers: a lovely perfectionist lady in Islamabad, a skeptic yet hopeful Vietnamese girl, a sarcastic yet encouraging academic adviser, a patience atheist-biologist, an arrogant yet gentle musical theologists, an enthusiast Chinese faith-seeker, a coffee-addict Egyptian girl, an ex journalist who is obsessed in Indonesia, a friendly yet muscly Pakistan, a helpful Bhutanese guy, and an Afghan boy who couldn't stop laughing. These are the people that Canberra has kindly introduced me and I hope the list will keep on going. Interacting with people and listening to their stories are, for me, the way to celebrate life that I am forever grateful for.<br /><br />For these people, the lessons they've been teaching me, for many other reasons, and for people and lessons to come:<br /><br />to Canberra, I say thank you<br />to God, I say thank you<br /><br />and to these once-strangers, I say thank you, friends :))The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-5671909418211495312011-05-01T04:53:00.000-07:002011-05-01T05:52:43.245-07:00The Pain of SilencePain comes in silent, and we suffer silently.<br /><br />It was an usual sunday morning. Some new faces at church except the fact that there were tw0 young people who would re-affirm their faith, and one guy -the piano player- who would become the member of Australian Uniting Church. I personally, don't really understand the implication of being a member and don't really see the points of reaffirming your faith in public.<br /><br />In the beginning of the sermon, I went outside, gathered couple of kids to play with. Oh well, we weren't actually playing. I didn't have any plan for them. So it was kind of impromptu things. I decided to tell the story of the Good Samaritan. I am not a bad story teller, if I should say so, :D. I asked them to imagine the case where they passed a street, found this half-naked-tortured man while they were in a rush to meet a beautiful lady (note: the kids were all male, note: please don't allege me suggesting sexual attraction too early). They gave quite honest and logical answer. One said he didn't know what to do, while the other said that he would call his waiting friend and explained the situation. Well done boys!!!<br /><br />As we were about to wrap up, a man came out of the church and talked to one of my boys. I listened something like, 'I'll meet you soon, don't worry'. I interrupted and asked the man of what was happening. He said that he needed to go to hospital or called an ambulance as he had this pain in his chest. So I asked to sit and called 000. To sum up, in less than 10 minutes, an ambulance came. The man was examined and monitored and he had arranged his relatives to take care of his son (some people who were in the church as well at that time). The kid was a bit disoriented after that. He was quiet during our sunday school but I could tell that he was a bit confused of what happened at that time. After the worship finished, the ambulance took off and brought the man to the hospital.<br /><br />All these things happened pretty quick and calmly, almost inaudible by those in church. No one in the church noticed, let alone asked what the hell was an ambulance doing in front of the church. We called an ambulance, the kids were a bit terrified, ambulance came, paramedics diagnosed him, monitored him, took him off. And within the same place, about 80 people prayed, listened to the sermon, reaffirmed their faith, sang hymns, chatted, exchanged news, and felt refreshed.<br /><br />For me it feels like, each of us suffers our own pain and we are suffering in silence. Quietly the pain seeps into our life, sometimes not by our own choosing. In some contexts, those who are close to us, might feel our torments to certain degree, but no matter how close they are, our miseries are properties of our isolated being.<br /><br />In contrast, happiness is most of the times louder than misery. Look at the celebration of royal wedding. We shout, we sing, we scream, we laugh, we clap sharing the joy. Maybe, just maybe, outvoiced by our celebrating sound, some people or even the supposedly happy bride and groom, were crying in their heart.<br /><br />The sound of our joy has successfully covered the quiet voice of crying people in Syria, Libya, the silent agony shared by those who lost their loved ones in Alabama. It's always the case that those who win the battle will roar, and those who lose will surrender in the inexpressible and unspoken state of defeat.<br /><br />As the world keeps on moving, the earth keeps on rotating in silent, undisturbed by the fact that each of us suffers the unpronounced, inarticulate, aphonic grieve and anguish, in silent.The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-50786382090945728782011-04-22T17:27:00.000-07:002011-04-22T17:41:01.032-07:00Sahabat - PrologSahabat<br /><br />Saya memutuskan untuk menulis blog dalam bahasa Indonesia lagi karena topik yang satu ini, sahabat. Sulit sekali menemukan padanan kata sahabat dalam bahasa Inggris. Mungkin saja karena bahasa Inggris saya masih amburadul dan saya belum sepenuhnya mengerti makna yang terkandung dalam kata-kata seperti friends, buddy, mate, pal, dan sebagainya. Sahabat, hanya satu kata, tujuh fonem yang menangkap begitu banyak adegan dalam perjalanan hidup saya.<br /><br />Bagaimana persahabatan dimulai? Apa yang membuat saya memutuskan untuk memanggil teman saya ini sahabat? Mungkinkah persahabatan berakhir? Kapan dan bagaimana? Ah teman, saya pun tidak mengerti. Apa yang saya mengerti, saya adalah orang yang berbahagia setiap kali saya menghitung sahabat saya. Sahabat saya tak banyak, tak perlu banyak, cukup untuk berbagi kesedihan, dan melipatgandakan kebahagiaan bersama.The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-80628291471430413702011-04-20T18:02:00.000-07:002011-04-20T19:07:09.804-07:00The Social SolitaireHow do we got from here to there?<br /><br />Some people walk, some drive cars, some ride bikes, some, like me, take buses<br /><br />Bus, a means of transportation, a public transportation, more precisely. This is a mode of mass transportation that I use here in Canberra, or even back then in Indonesia. Although, the buses here are ten times better than those in Indonesia. Cleaner, more punctual, safer, and more comfortable.<br /><br />It is times that I spend getting on the bus, sitting alone especially by window, looking outside, watching the road, people and things, passing by when I usually contemplate on my days and my life in general. Of course, it wouldn't be complete without my favorite songs played like soundtrack of a movie; like I am in sort 0f clip with glimpses of my past appearing and dissolving.<br /><br />But it is that very damn songs that I would curse today (I have to curse at least one thing in a day, otherwise I can't sleep). So, what makes me get agitated by these songs in our iPods??<br /><br />Because it eases solitary, it creates distance, it alienates us from the rest of passengers in the bus!! Each of us, lonely passenger get on the bus, greet the driver (hi, how's it going? good thanks), take the most comfortable seat where no one sits next to us, put our baggage beside us so that no one will try to sit next to us, plug in those two tiny speakers into our ears, and ignore the rest of the bus. I say we since it's not only me, but most of the passengers.<br /><br />I imagine, like 100 years ago, there was no public transportation. Every one of us, at least every family might have had their own horses or carts, or whatever. How about poor families? I reckon either they had to walk, or they had to ask for rich neighbour's favour to pick them up, to drop them off, preferably those who are going to roughly the same direction. They must've know each other so during the journey, they were most likely to talk to each other. You know, who will get married, how's your grandson, that the priest had an affair, etc. They didn't mind talking, maybe because they had not invented iPod back then, or even Sony Walkman. They had to talk, to make the journey bearable.<br /><br />However, as people get smarter, get more fragmented and things are commodified, we invented our own talking friend, our own comfort in the journey. Cell phones, books, iPods.<br /><br />If bus is going to take us through the same journey, even the same destination, why would we not want to know who are those people taking the same path. Hey, you're listening to music too, maybe we're actually listening to the same singer? Do you like Jamie Cullum? Or maybe, we've been to the same place? Have you been to Tokyo? Or maybe, we want to do the same things in the future? Sky diving, anyone? Or maybe, we just had a crappy trashy day? Ah, same here!<br /><br />But no, instead of changing our seat to sit next to our fellow passenger, we change our mp3. Instead of listening to their stories, we raise our mp3 volumes. Instead of talking to them, we sing to our songs (worse, we just do lypsinc). Sometimes, it really looks pathetic!!<br /><br />How do we got from there to here?<br /><br />We are human, we are wired to interact, we can't stand silence for too long, we need sound!! But we are also built to seek control, to manipulate environment for our own satisfaction. That's why, we find that sound from other human being are, most of the times, annoying (probably because they just talk about themselves, silly stuff, inessential and insignificant). We are not able to know what kind of 'music' will we hear from them in advance. Not like iPod where you can customize 'your talking friends' and skip, delete, remove some of the songs when we feel they don't serve our interest. With human, we can't really control their voices, the volumes, the pitch, the pace. We can't mute them whenever we are tired of them, we can't fast forward or rewind, we can't skip, we can't stop them as we like. Hence, the iPod and those two tiny wicked speakers.<br /><br />And we call it civilization. well, well....The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-92030224191807696972011-04-16T21:29:00.001-07:002011-04-16T22:27:46.212-07:00Garden StateRight, I'll write it down while it's still floating on the stream in my brain. <div><br /></div><div>Garden State</div><div><br /></div><div>Oh God, where have I been for so long??? I knew this movie for so long but never really sat and watched it. I was lured by other movies with great reviews, huge ads, sensational trailers, top actors, bombastic plot and such and such. I put it aside, later on...later on. </div><div><br /></div><div>So, last night I finally got to watch Garden State. It's a gem, a small and simple one. Not a big and sparkling diamond. It's a small deeply glowing onyx. Like when you are out fighting for Louis Vuitton sale and your eyes catch a glimpse of lonely small handbag sitting on the corner of the shop. Fall in love, you move away from the crowd and slowly approach the lonely fellow. You take it, 60 percent discount of Louis Vuitton doesn't matter anymore, go to the counter, pay for it, and walk out of the store. Your steps feel so light. That kind of feeling!!</div><div><br /></div><div>I'm bad at giving summary of a movie. I think you'd better go to imdb.com or rotten tomatoes to get a good synopsis. Here's the link </div><div>http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0333766/synopsis</div><div><br /></div><div>The movie is full of quirky and exaggerating stuff but to my surprise I don't find it weird or bizarre. You feel like, hang on a sec, that thing could really happen. In fact, I did fantasised about a shirt made from wall paper. Or yeah I did random tap dancing in front of some people. </div><div><br /></div><div>There is one scene that I really love. The spin bottle scene, where Andrew (the protagonist) sits on the couch and watches all his friends moving, dancing, kissing, drinking, like a martian. Everything was so normal yet so out of place. He is part of the space and story (it's his life, after all) yet it feels like taking a sneak peek into someone's life. Ever feel like you find all the routine normal things sound/look/smell/unfamiliar? </div><div><br /></div><div>I think it encapsulates the whole movie. A martian who is originally coming from earth. Andrew came back home, it should feel like home, but it doesn't, but it's still home. It should feel like a funeral, I should feel sad, but I don't, but it's still a funeral. I should feel like me, but who is me? </div><div><br /></div><div>Garden State for me is about being 20 something human; a lost one, lonely and disoriented. It's about redefining home, be it place, people, memory or just feeling. It's about comfortably sinking oneself in feeling, be it pain, love, happiness, fear or anger. It's about embracing your present life, whatever it means, whatever constitute it, whatever there is to it. This is it! </div><div><br /></div><div>Andrew Largeman is lost, lonely, and disoriented in his mid 20s. However, he chose to feel whatever life brings (even if it's pain), and chose to move on (to wherever it may be), and be at peace at home (whatever form it takes). </div><div><br /></div><div>For me it resonates to what I have been thinking and feeling about my life. If life is a road, I feel like living in a detour. But hell, yeah, I will eventually get to wherever I have to arrive, it might take a while and yes, detour is a beautiful sidetrack of life :))</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div>The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-49642198155534470522011-04-15T22:02:00.000-07:002011-04-15T22:41:44.016-07:00For ClaraAllow me to write about thing that might sounds a bit bragging. It really is nothing. I mean this is the thing that some people post in their walls, write in their statuses, and you wish that there is a 'Like I Care' button to click!!! I am fully aware of this. But, trust me dear readers, I just feel happy, simply that's what i feel now. And I just want to jot this moment and freeze it in words. So, in times where I find everything is bleak, this simple kind of happiness might sip back into my heart and light the days!! So please bear with me!<div><br /></div><div>Well, recently my days has been so gloomy and lonely. I think I can blame the changing weather partly for my misery. Canberra has decided to test my mood and I, so far, lost points. It's really cold, windy (strong, freezy, and dry), and cloudy as well. Like 3 days ago, the temperature plunged into 5 degree. Hello, I thought we're still in the beginning of autumn here!! And along with falling leaves, falls does my mood. I have a terrible SAD (Seasonal Affected Disorder) or winter blues (only it's fall, not yet winter). That's why a lot of suicide attempts are done in winter. </div><div><br /></div><div>So, you can imagine how it feels to find a small package addressed to you at 9 am in the morning. You haven't had any breakfast, still in that pyjama where you can hide yourself in, a thick and long socks, bedhead hair, unwashed face and you opened your door and looked down at your feet, found this small box with your name written on it!! Trust me, it feels like summer in June (we're talking about southern hemisphere here). </div><div><br /></div><div>It was a thank you gift from my professor in ANU. She is so damn sweet and considerate!! Like three days ago I emailed her (she is by the way, in Norway now on sabbatical leave) to ask about internship opportunity. She replied and gave me some contact numbers (I've contacted them, no reply yet, finger crossed!!). She then asked my address for a completely different things. I didn't ask for what but I gave her. So, the thank you gift is the 'completely different thing' she mentioned before. </div><div><br /></div><div>For some background, this lecturer named Sharon Bessell is the main reason I chose Crawford School ANU. She has done an extensive work on children in Indonesia (and also in Fiji and Australia). She teaches Children and Youth Policy in Crawford (but not this year, hopefully next year when I'm eligible to take elective courses, children and youth policy will be offered once again). I think, Crawford School is the only school of public policy that has particular course in children, other university has that under department of social work which kind of far from my background in politics. So, yeah I chose Crawford and got to meet and know this amazing lady. </div><div><br /></div><div>She is really friendly and approachable. Her lecture is really interesting and engaging (she was one the guest lecturer in one of my current courses). She is the kind of person who enters a room of indifferent people and can melt the ice, people just feel her warmth and radiant. Trust me, it's not only me who says this. My academic advisor actually adores her! And it's hard to get a genuine compliment for this academic advisor of mine, even if you're a professor (he likes to mock our director and some professors =P)</div><div><br /></div><div>The reason for this thank you gift is that I helped her as an interpreter in her workshop about a month ago. She asked me to help her and hell yes, I immediately grabbed that offer. It was a very rewarding activity. I actually the one who should thank her for giving me that opportunity. I did learnt a looooot!! I'll write another post on that workshop. And moreover, I am paid for that, so this gift is a personal appreciation.</div><div><br /></div><div>I am happy. </div><div><br /></div><div>So, let me for the first time ( it feels like a first time) embrace this small, simple happiness and feel genuinely happy without thinking,'ok, so what is exactly you want from me?'. It's not grand, it's not overwhelming like a big wave crashes the rock. It's just a simple act of kindness that seeps into your heart like a small river flow :))</div>The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-9280476352580518982011-04-13T19:03:00.000-07:002011-04-13T19:09:39.783-07:00Economic for Lover-1My Economic Way of Thinking Exam's Question<br /><br />1. Give an example of sunk cost and show how it should be used in decision making<br /><br />Sunk cost is retrospective cost in the past that has been incurred and cannot be recovered or traded. In making decision, one should not take sunk cost into account (it should be ignored).<br /><br />Example<br />All the time, energy, and resources that you've spent in building relationship with your partner should not be considered in making decision whether or not you break up with your partner. All gone is gone. Don't cry over the spill milk<br /><br /><br />p.s : I did wrote that as my answer. My lecturer must be proud of me; applying economic concept to relationship issue.The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-82753391680797460182011-04-10T05:54:00.000-07:002011-11-09T21:50:03.301-08:00The Piano ManI have this urgency to write at the time when I should revisit all the tutorials for tomorrow's exam. But who cares! The best feeling in life comes when you do things you shouldn't do *grinn. The worst, though, is regretting as the consequences roll back to you, but it's not for now, so why bother ?!<br /><br /><br /><div style="TEXT-ALIGN: justify; COLOR: rgb(0,102,0)"><span style="font-family:verdana;">Have you ever watched the eyes of a piano player when her/his fingers are dancing on the tuts? Well, for me, most of the times my puppy eyes will be closed. It's something I can't help, just automatically. For sure, I can't close my eyes when I still learn the notes. But I can guarantee you, the minute I got the tune and melody in my head, my eyes retreat and wander around in other realm, the world of that particular music. </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;">Music, for me, encapsulates most -if not all- of things that happened in my life. </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;">I lost my mom when I was 8. She's the one who first taught me how to play. I would play the song from hymns as she gently wept and withered in her bed. I played, my eyes were closed. </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;">I met my mentor in life when my father was searching for someone to continue to teach me play. He did not only teach me Mozart and Bach (of course Chopin and Beethoven), but he taught me how to believe in something that I put away along with my grieve. He taught me how to play God, a minuscule part of the Providence and I closed my eyes. </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;">I met my life I knew now when I was playing an organ in a church. A man came and praised my playing. He offered me a place in Uncle Sam's big house to play music there. My heart pounded, my eyes were open big. My father said no, it has to be medicine or engineering. My heart broke, my eyes dimmed, I played alone. </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;">I keep on playing, people keep on showering with compliments. None of them know, each tuts I press, it brought me a glimpse of memory, of things that continue to stay with me, forever. Like the changing of one tone to another, the melody continues, I know in my journey of life, as one phase fade sout and the other unfolds, my eyes will be closed, </span><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;">but my heart will remain open. </span><br /></div><br /><br /><span style="FONT-STYLE: italic; COLOR: rgb(0,0,102)">That was very beautiful. Did you just make it up while you were playing? with those closed eyes? </span>The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-64118509670320860982011-04-09T23:55:00.000-07:002011-04-10T00:01:35.188-07:00In a motionIn the middle of nowhere<br />find traces of milky way<br />out there, somewhere in nowhere<br /><br />it is the loudest silence<br />so dim, it shines,<br />so wide, it confines<br /><br />even a dog's bark<br />suddenly has a profound meaning<br />it adds something to the nothingness<br />yet, it remains empty<br /><br />What can be contained in half of a second<br />of a reality and of a memory?<br />a falling star, probably?<br /><br />and how does it end? or does it end?<br />does the end sacrifice itself to the beginning?<br />does it matter anyway?<br /><br />the road ahead keeps unfolding itself<br />as the ahead molds into the passing<br />it keeps on fading out<br /><br />and we, in a motion, always in between<br />the has and the shall<br />never arriving, never ever leaving<br /><br />the destination is the ground beneath<br />to where we are attached,<br />yet forever moving.<br /><br />what can be contained in half of a second<br />of a reality and of a memory?The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-2370180070695646042011-02-06T23:24:00.000-08:002011-04-12T03:07:55.187-07:00Ending is the New Beginning. Is it?Move on, or maybe it will pass eventually???<br /><br />There are certain things and times in life where we can draw clear line between ending and beginning. When is your semester kicking in? When is it ended? When did you meet your partner? When were you born? When did your grandpa die? and so on.<br /><br />As human being, we live through uncountable phases. We may, with the help of logics (or method of thinking, knowledge, whatever you may call it) simplify the phases. Early birth, infant, toddler, childhood, teenage, adolescent,adulthood, senior, -and of course ends with death (well, unless you believe in life after death). It depends on your perspective, you can end up with hundreds way of dividing life in stages.<br /><br />But life (and here you can replace with reality) is never as simple as we want it to be. There are phases of life that are blurry, hazy, and indescribable. There are stages that we aware of after we grow out of them. There are even, some of us, or some of the stages, who would never realize that we've been through some episodes of life.<br /><br />Maybe that's the point. How can we realize an episode, a stage, a level, a step, a room, a boundary, without start and end point? Maybe, not realizing it is the best attitude toward life maturity process. Blessed ignorance, the other saying goes.<br /><br />I am no blessed ignorance (somethings that I really need to learn!). Call it thoughtful, reflective, or just absurd complex, I am 'it'.<br /><br />So this year 2011, is the beginning of my new semester for sure (oh think about thousands of words that I should write d'oh!), and also new kind of life. Not totally different with what I had before, but still they're not the same.<br /><br />To begin with, I broke up (yeah, I can hear sound of protest in my head, some even yell ungrateful bit*h). Well, blame me! I take my responsibility. Yep, it's me who ended it. I'm a selfish, arrogant, prideful, egoist, snob girl. I am lousy, not the kind of girl who you should consider if you are contemplating serious relationship. The credits for our four years something relationship should all go to him. I spiced the journey, he drove and struggled with the road, no one dealt with the destination: we got lost. Then we rushed to our maps and look, we have different ones now. How come? I don't have any idea. So, thank you it has been a nice trip, but I'm sorry, I'm heading somewhere else and so are you. I gently got off the car.<br /><br />We' re cool, we try to be as grown up as we can be (sometimes being adult not equal to being rational). We still share whatever happens in life, still chatting, still texting, not much of a difference. Of course, we cut off those sweet words, or public display of affection. However, since we rarely had them before, it doesn't feel different, like there is nothing really change (so fundamentally what we had is just a deep care for each other with some sparks of physical attraction to legitimately call it 'relationship'). I still care for him, that's one thing for sure!<br /><br />I moved from previous house, that 's something I should consider as part of new life. Things didn't go very well, not as well as I expected. The need to belong to a piece of shelter is so damn crucial that I had to leave despite all the consequences and emotional turbulence incurred. My new house I share with two aussie guys. One is doing PhD in art, the other is a public servant who like to watch Charlie Sheen's Two and a Half Men (I can be the half man :-) ). They are clean and simple. There's no constant 'what-will-they-think' kind of tension in my mind. Life with guys, if you don't like the way they do things, just spit it out in a civil way. No offense, no talking behind your back. No drama<br /><br />Talking about drama, I recently saved myself from two of them. Well, they hadn't been developed into drama yet, but close. I managed to pass. I don't need this, and I stopped them there. I'll elaborate it other posts (if I can force myself to =p ).<br /><br />So, in the end of this writing, I just want to say, as a human sometimes you need to stop and say to yourself, this it what I call an end (be it relationship, be it activity, be it addiction, be it status quo, or life as a whole) and move to the new beginning. The new start might constitute a small part of your cosmic life, while the other parts keep moving on, not arriving to their own ends yet, or it can be your whole life, it really depends on the way you see it. The point is to move on by renewing things or maybe you don't have to. Don't read my blog for advices in life :D.The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-29861712387755806132010-07-25T04:50:00.000-07:002010-07-27T04:02:07.641-07:00Where Little Things Count<div align="justify"><span style="color:#330033;">Canberra... what a city</span></div><div align="justify"><br /><span style="color:#330033;">I don't really know how I'm going to write about Canberra. I've been here for almost two months. I came to know where to find red hot chilli pepper, where to buy the cheapest groceries, when to throw organic waste, that thou shall not predict the weather and so on and on. Nevertheless, this city somehow remains in a distance from me.<br /><br />Obviously, Canberra is small city with road that goes round and round in circle (well, people say you can't help it, this city is designed for politicians :p). Not much to do here, compare to, well basically almost all cities in Australia. There are not so many shopping centre which is somehow good. The night clubs are full of drunken teenagers leaving sunday mornings colored with some cheap alcohol bottles. We have only bus as inner public transportation which happily run for like once in an hour from 9-4 on weekend. And don't get lost in working hours here especially in the housing areas, there is no human being to ask for direction. </span></div><div align="justify"><br /><span style="color:#330033;">I live in a small house, near the bus stop (which is very important point of taking this house), near the city (so I don't have to worry about getting home late, again, on the weekdays), near the ANU (but still, having Crawford as my campus, I must walk for about 25 minutes from bus interchange). But for me the best thing of my current home is the bicycle path. It is away from the road, along the creek, among the green grass, and trees, simply beautiful. The thing is it becomes very dark to cycle after 7 pm and you don't want to bump into a possum, right? </span></div><div align="justify"><br /><span style="color:#330033;">However, well a big HOWEVER, this city is somehow fascinating and interesting. Start using your intuition, and then you'll notice many wonderful things lie beneath its solemn and still existence. It is the city, where you must sensitize your senses to enjoy its beauty.</span></div><div align="justify"><br /><span style="color:#330033;">Recently, I was trying to find some art workshop or classes (to make me have a good 'couture' feeling :p ). I could not find it anywhere even by typing keywords like workshop in google. But gradually, I came to understand that I need a new strategy to unfold the mystery of Canberra. So I started looking all over again by first searching for local community centre, museums and galleries, or even local festivals. Then, from that enquiries, I continued to seek small classes they provide. And I found them. They do exist. Eureka!!!!</span></div><div align="justify"><br /><span style="color:#330033;">The other day, I went to Cockington Garden in Gold Creek Village. It's sort of a garden where many of miniatures of houses and buildings around the world are exhibited. It is fairly interesting, but even more so in spring, I think. However, what struck me the most is their tagline, 'where little things count'. These words sound even more true, when my friends and I explored the neighborhoods. The village's full of small shops with so many little, tiny, sweet, and delicate stuffs mainly made by Canberran artists. You cannot spend just a day to really savvy all those tiny lovely goods they made.<br /><br />A day there made me realize that sometimes to connect with this city, I have to stop a while, be still, open my eyes, unfold my hands, breath slowly, immersed myself into the surroundings, and let it reveals its beauty.</span></div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#330033;"></span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#330033;">I believe Canberra has many things to offer to people come by, if only they stop looking with their own direction. It's a long way to really justify my thesis and I only have two years to test myself. But, I think I've made a good start to take a glimpse of it. </span></div><div align="center"><br /></div><div align="center"></div><div align="center"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2rFZnmjMjNt_o2uySKS5RP_C_lav7YYHJLuWNYG9zFMAL7W7PcfSNjpBccIBXXpHugrzKYLj-fcUOuJCqa_Dn65n5wq3h_6l7dgNFkRvrMOzn3-yLodCgnv-AdO8ZoBpltgA5V03K7UI/s1600/mushroom.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5497832826284635906" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 212px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2rFZnmjMjNt_o2uySKS5RP_C_lav7YYHJLuWNYG9zFMAL7W7PcfSNjpBccIBXXpHugrzKYLj-fcUOuJCqa_Dn65n5wq3h_6l7dgNFkRvrMOzn3-yLodCgnv-AdO8ZoBpltgA5V03K7UI/s320/mushroom.jpg" border="0" /></a></div><div align="left"> "<span style="font-family:lucida grande;color:#009900;"><em>Like the first dewfall, on the first grass</em><span style="color:#000000;">" <span style="font-size:78%;">Cat Stevens, Morning Has Broken</span></span></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-size:78%;"></span> </div><div align="left"><span style="font-size:78%;"></span> </div><div align="left"><span style="font-family:lucida grande;color:#009900;"><span style="color:#000000;"><span style="font-size:78%;"></span></span></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family:lucida grande;color:#009900;"><span style="color:#000000;"><span style="font-size:78%;"></span></span></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family:lucida grande;color:#009900;"><span style="color:#000000;"><span style="font-size:78%;"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5497832832691334066" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 212px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgRWFeCVD9nNxexXtzPIl6IUXJw5C3zVi1eqSNiNhfytNcu4y2WIZ-dUjC5cfbqwBFCW80XP2aGgL2qDJj_975_zskQf67akP0Mrhk48KI-3PRBJtz3bf72bqlNDZPdxQzrcP_5pXOUjQ8/s320/cafetaria2.jpg" border="0" /></span></span></span></div><div align="center"><div align="center"><span style="font-family:lucida grande;color:#ff6600;"><span style="color:#000000;">"</span><em>I never knew just what it was about this old coffee shop I love so much</em><span style="color:#000000;">" </span></span></div><div align="center"><span style="font-family:lucida grande;color:#ff6600;"><span style="font-size:78%;color:#000000;">Landon Pigg, Falling in Love in A Coffee Shop</span></span></div><div align="center"><span style="font-size:78%;"></span><br /></div></div><div align="left"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi-X6kcERTyayYSSBWMHUSUv0fdiIruPzZ3DM8FXqPNRGHfCWApSaO2PYTnGnThBG6PbgCaECZIpNnXpggXxf5P1zRi1sP12RietESDjh7c88jLNmC6NNRajssMIi0JSINufFbN6l9gAME/s1600/book1.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5497828427294460722" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 212px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi-X6kcERTyayYSSBWMHUSUv0fdiIruPzZ3DM8FXqPNRGHfCWApSaO2PYTnGnThBG6PbgCaECZIpNnXpggXxf5P1zRi1sP12RietESDjh7c88jLNmC6NNRajssMIi0JSINufFbN6l9gAME/s320/book1.jpg" border="0" /></a> <span style="font-family:lucida grande;color:#660000;"><span style="color:#000000;">"</span><em>Stand by your man, cause after all he's just a man</em></span>" <span style="font-size:78%;">Tammy Wynette, Stand By Your Man</span><br /></div><div align="left"><br /><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5497832844764688386" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 255px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjSVHHxs2DECUBB2O2qJAOFSPApRMrVZOn_uTLJxQtlD-hHVxkOPBUV9l02sMtk3p1FndMevEdOT6g_T_WQvmglrEqhZNIUyDxZLIvqheRYogf0r_tAV2tb3gF0XRGiplwp-t6DTs-Dk7I/s320/dickson.jpg" border="0" /> "<span style="font-family:lucida grande;color:#3333ff;"><em>On my way home I can remember every new day</em></span>" <span style="font-size:78%;">Enya, On My Way Home</span><br /><br /><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5497832848402417458" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 212px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg7abzuyrJuR_wKM2WEWaiAIixuJCEzJl3SKtjDICYVu2dHkBeEKC1-VhL-naw7r-x0Ebw_T11t8WyYMhhWas76EHkw70OVwKEZWByuP4Ya4CixhaSmlKNERWVQJTMzUK5fUzeEDYdz88Y/s320/sunset.jpg" border="0" /> "<span style="font-family:lucida grande;color:#ff6600;"><em>The long day is over...."</em></span> <span style="font-size:78%;">Norah Jones, The Long Day Is Over </span></div>The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-40117807691895327582010-05-06T01:22:00.000-07:002010-05-06T03:42:34.199-07:00A Family Can Be Found Anywhere<div><br /></div><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhWYiCSF-BRe3ZtKFxCS3Lwn4GYFH46s9TCikL67gr-PXV0765Np4L_ZWux-K37Rbj65UIFzshBiatT9V_gIy57OFZsuvg3sSs6p4Qw5X2GrfGLfVJEmbz2j7dgSeh70yUTetQZgw408mQ/s1600/30909_1321950802646_1047099898_30770299_2566277_n.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 300px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhWYiCSF-BRe3ZtKFxCS3Lwn4GYFH46s9TCikL67gr-PXV0765Np4L_ZWux-K37Rbj65UIFzshBiatT9V_gIy57OFZsuvg3sSs6p4Qw5X2GrfGLfVJEmbz2j7dgSeh70yUTetQZgw408mQ/s400/30909_1321950802646_1047099898_30770299_2566277_n.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5468103467050719874" /></a><br /><div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" ;font-family:verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#009900;"><i>A family can be found anywhere</i></span></span></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC0000;"><i>A home can be build anywhere</i></span>. One can build it inside a small classroom or a confined computer room. You can build it in a noisy and hot food court or maybe a cozy study room </div><div><div style="text-align: justify;">It can be inside a tall and proud cobble stone building</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC0000;"><i>A family can be of anyone</i></span></div><div style="text-align: justify;">It can mean 4 brothers and 8 sisters, and 1 big uncle :)</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC0000;"><i>A brother can be anyone</i></span></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">For me</div><div style="text-align: justify;">He can be a vulcanologist turned to seismologist who taught you to appreciate every single moment. He can be the guy who always sit by the door and drink any kind of Ultra Milk. He can be bald, and skinny, and a fan of Slipknot. He can be the one who promised to biketracking with you. Well, who knows when you will meet him :)</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">He, of course, can be funny and talkative and silly and helpful at the same time. He can be a person who likes to have Indomie for breakfast. He can be a very good leader, who handle most of the managements from working with your visas and karaoke. So if one day you met him, please remember that he didn't like to wear any watch or accessories. </div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Sometimes, he can be the boy who surprised you with his singing talent!! You'll never think that any MOFA's employee can sing a good dangdut. That man can be your brother too. You have to be careful because he can be so humble and at the same time, proud of his photocopying capability!! If you find a government man who showed good sport to every condemnation, then you've found him. </div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">He can be an architect-wanna-be who tried to savvy that damn Freudian Psychoanalysis. He can be very open and a good listener at the same time with Singlish accent and Sundanese here and there. He can be the person you can always talk to, from how to save your relationship to tricks on crossing the street. Maybe you'll find him telling dirty jokes, if you're lucky. </div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC0000;"><i>A sister can be anyone</i></span></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">For me, </div><div style="text-align: justify;">She can be a modest pianist, arranger, knitter, and singer. She can be someone whom you have so many things in common with, from idolizing Satoshi Tsumabuki to adoring Try Tone, from not wanting to do master in Japan to sea food and nasi goreng teri medan lover. She can be, like you, an IR apostate and hopefully find rest not so far from sociology :)</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">She can be a too-good-looking-to-be-a-lecturer lady who tried to prove that her daughter diet is anything but worse than those fat chubby kids. If you find a woman who told you that the best job she ever had is flight attendant then you know you've found this wonderful sister. </div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">For sure, she can be a real good civil servant who deals with biofuel, God hears her!!! She can be the person you met in Karaoke always with good marks and up to date songs (who the hell is Taylor Swift???!!!). You can always tell her, when you see a woman so passionate and so lively when arguing something really matter to her. That's her!!!</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">She might be a little bit silent and calm but be patient and you'll hear extraordinary comments coming from her mouth. She can be the person who always have this take-it-easy-lah style, no need to rush, never hustle. Then when you see her, presenting her thoughts, you will understand that this kind of sister is not easy to find.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">She can always be a lot older than you but with an evergreen smile. She can be the person who you will always nod everytime she asks you something. You'll go miles for her errands, in return for delicious dinner :p. A woman who always win debate on population and vocabulary game, that sounds like her. </div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Oh yes she can be a person who sometimes you wonder how come she knows so many things. She can be a woman who will give you a positive critics, appreciation, and little compliments now and then, never with any hesitation. If you wonder where all the candies gone, then surely she's around you. </div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">She can be what you called breeze and calm wind. A little bit shy and coy, one you can never think to have two kids and your question will be,'How come you stay slim?' That very fine lady will answer you nothing but her beautiful smile will keep you quiet. Ah, if you meet her, please on behalf of me, ask her to dance.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">She can be a girl you envy for having a good english and unique eyes. However, you can do nothing but to love her, since she is a big fan of Alanis, like you!! She can be that very person who shocked you with her laughing, like every little joke is so hilarious. So when you find someone giggle with you at the same time, you know whom you've met. </div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC0000;"><i>A big uncle can be anyone</i></span></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC0000;"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: justify;">For me, </div><div style="text-align: justify;">He can be a sarcastic teacher who gets less and less hair everyday. He can be so expressive to the point he will run amock out of class but like to avoid emotional situations. He can be the one who desperately taught you to well pronounce participatory and got mad every time you say 'mention about and discuss about'. He can be the teacher who told you that you are the brightest ones, that you shouldn't underestimate yourselves, that you shouldn't expect that every western people is as smart as him. He can be the teacher who left you with so many silly quotations that you'll remember by heart. If you heard a bald man said amusingly,'KAMU LAGI!!!!' then you know it's him. </div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC0000;"><i>and me, </i></span></div><div style="text-align: justify;">well, like my friend once said, a family is shawl and I'm just a thread.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><i>A family can be found anywhere</i></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><i>and you will amaze how simple it is</i></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><i><br /></i></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#33CC00;">For me, </span></i></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#33CC00;">there were unfolding arms</span></i></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#33CC00;">mine and theirs</span></i></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#33CC00;"><br /></span></i></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#33CC00;">They opened their hearts</span></i></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#33CC00;">I opened mine</span></i></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><i><br /></i></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC0000;">and that's all the difference there was. </span></i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC0000;"> </span></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div></div>The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-31086882507986244612010-03-16T20:37:00.000-07:002010-03-16T21:49:46.104-07:00No Worries, Mate!!<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNumMvxmschMxJj3ICivt5uk5WO-vOo1voduioxZUoPQ9AnhaOPAmfSYz3xstG88bhuheEgfLG79TTxSVS985OynHbcwLZV5v5yCng35C6s9rkLUxwzvmWhTcg3DaMYiwJNkxc-pBSEfg/s1600-h/boab-tree-110175-sw.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 300px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNumMvxmschMxJj3ICivt5uk5WO-vOo1voduioxZUoPQ9AnhaOPAmfSYz3xstG88bhuheEgfLG79TTxSVS985OynHbcwLZV5v5yCng35C6s9rkLUxwzvmWhTcg3DaMYiwJNkxc-pBSEfg/s400/boab-tree-110175-sw.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5449454301831301362" border="0" /></a><br />And so it is,<br />It's gonna be that smallest continent where a bulk of young Indonesians were sent to study and hopefully back for good. It's Aussie, mate!!!<br /><br />It was kind of surprise. I was in Jakarta, escaped from all the hastiness of life. Ah no, my boyfriend was going for some interview for India scholarship. Intimidated by the rustic and cruel image of our capital city, he asked me to accompany him. Seeing the chance to escape a while from my mundane life, I agreed (he paid half for my travel cost, I have to say, not to make me sounds cheap :p).<br /><br />After the interview, we went to meet his friend and his friend's friends, had some dinner which was amazingly expensive, thank God I didn't have to pay for it :p (again, not that I'm cheap, I just have had better). By that time, one of their friend whom I also knew, said that she had been accepted as an awardee for ADS -which she already knew from before the interview phase she wouldn't take it- For this matter, I think I will write other post.<br /><br />Anyway, I was asked then. I was surprised since I thought that the result would be announced no earlier than March. Fraud, that was my first thought. But that was it, the result had been announced. I wasn't happy with the prospect to be an awardee of ADS. I didn't know why possibly because I was still fascinated by Europe particularly studying in Erasmus University, Netherlands or maybe I haven't prepared myself to re-separate again, for another long distance relationship. I was accepted, for good or for bad, at least for that time.<br /><br />Somehow, as I recall my memories back before the announcement, I remembered what my heart felt when I watched the movie Australia. Even today, every time I watched the trailer, listen to the OST especially By The Boab Tree, my heart melt, and my body shiver. Yeah, Hugh Jackman plays the protagonist there and I have to admit his charm contribute largely to make me mesmerized.<br /><br />When I first watched the movie, I felt drown to the dessert, savanna, the bush, and the boab tree. The boab tree particularly is one of the reminiscence from The Little Prince novel. I long to see the tree and touch it. Though I tried to deny it, another voice told me,"you'll be in Australia'. And it came to reality.<br /><br />Now, I'm quite overwhelmed by all the preparations, and stuffed by the sentimental feeling of goodbye. Oh no, I'm starting to cry :(<br /><br />But like Australian's popular saying, no worries, mate.. no worries...The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-75337021571675428622010-01-15T20:46:00.000-08:002010-01-15T20:49:03.082-08:00Hope for The Flowers<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgqxli5fCz8WoyRC5OvarQAhB_ZH7cm28raIwgx11e86sGUqw8Qorak9H8XvyKPTlWPMB26w2kUg2dBCr-f3LoiRr3JP2BQQ9SgYJJu3DIA5C9dwookRNtJ4WOqIHoEho1znPaku6HwH4U/s1600-h/Roll1_B0B9121-R1-11-13A_1024x692.JPG"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 270px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgqxli5fCz8WoyRC5OvarQAhB_ZH7cm28raIwgx11e86sGUqw8Qorak9H8XvyKPTlWPMB26w2kUg2dBCr-f3LoiRr3JP2BQQ9SgYJJu3DIA5C9dwookRNtJ4WOqIHoEho1znPaku6HwH4U/s400/Roll1_B0B9121-R1-11-13A_1024x692.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5427194909498982322" border="0" /></a>The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-50107875309215633482010-01-05T00:05:00.000-08:002010-01-05T00:42:16.309-08:00(This) Next Year, Babydu du du du <div><br /></div><div>Here some of my 2010 resolutions </div><div><br /></div><div>HUH!!!! Who are you kidding, Junkie? You are not even in the same constellation with the planet of commitment, strong will satellite, and the orbit of resolution. </div><div><br /></div><div>1. I will not pay any fine or sanction. </div><div><br /></div><div>Lame..? Yes, indeed. I ain't gonna save the world by being the most punctual subscriber. But who care, all resolutions in the first place must be selfish. I'm gonna save my pocket from burning to nothing</div><div><br /></div><div>2. I will involve in a good part time</div><div><br /></div><div>Means some well paid-lots-of-fun-carefree-flexible-good-for-CV- work (haha)</div><div><br /></div><div>3. I will be a devoted prayer </div><div><br /></div><div>Practically increasing my quick and routine prayer of 3 minutes to well, 30 minutes. Oh wait it, that's intimidating, say just 15 minutes (Oh God, what will we chat about? My life? You're going to get sleepy, it's totally mundane)</div><div><br /></div><div>4. I will travel somewhere in Indonesia </div><div><br /></div><div>Not my hometown, not around Jogja, not getting lost in Jakarta especially the jungle of Glodok. Somewhere remote, exotic, wild, inspiring, bla bla bla bla, and CHEAP </div><div><br /></div><div>5. I will finish my story (any of them)</div><div><br /></div><div>What were them? The fisherman and the kidney girl? No... I think it was the genie and the camel? No.. no... no... one of them is kind of fishy, involving some Koi or Goldfish. Oh well, there are still 360 days to remember those unaccompanied minors. </div><div><br /></div><div>6. I will gain 5 kgs</div><div><br /></div><div>HAHAHAHAHA. That's exactly why I am the worst person ever making resolution !!! Impractical, impossible, lack of feasibility, wishful, you mention it!!! </div><div><br /></div><div>7. I will make more resolutions next year </div><div><br /></div><div>and this year resolutions will be at top list of my next year resolutions with a very high probability. </div><div><br /></div><div>Hey, I already told you I'm a masochistic skeptic right? </div><div><br /></div><div>HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERY ONE!!! HOPE You were not drunk when writing this year resolutions :) </div>The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-3611657905076330742009-12-22T20:24:00.000-08:002009-12-22T21:01:22.152-08:00And So This Is Christmas<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:worddocument> <w:view>Normal</w:View> <w:zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:punctuationkerning/> <w:validateagainstschemas/> <w:saveifxmlinvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:ignoremixedcontent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:alwaysshowplaceholdertext>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:compatibility> <w:breakwrappedtables/> <w:snaptogridincell/> <w:wraptextwithpunct/> <w:useasianbreakrules/> <w:dontgrowautofit/> <w:usefelayout/> </w:Compatibility> <w:browserlevel>MicrosoftInternetExplorer4</w:BrowserLevel> </w:WordDocument> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:latentstyles deflockedstate="false" latentstylecount="156"> </w:LatentStyles> </xml><![endif]--><style> <!-- /* Font Definitions */ @font-face {font-family:"MS Mincho"; panose-1:2 2 6 9 4 2 5 8 3 4; mso-font-alt:"Arial Unicode MS"; mso-font-charset:128; mso-generic-font-family:roman; mso-font-format:other; mso-font-pitch:fixed; mso-font-signature:1 134676480 16 0 131072 0;} @font-face {font-family:"\@MS Mincho"; panose-1:0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0; mso-font-charset:128; mso-generic-font-family:roman; mso-font-format:other; mso-font-pitch:fixed; mso-font-signature:1 134676480 16 0 131072 0;} /* Style Definitions */ p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal {mso-style-parent:""; margin:0cm; margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"MS Mincho";} @page Section1 {size:612.1pt 30.0cm; margin:127.6pt 3.0cm 3.0cm 4.0cm; mso-header-margin:35.45pt; mso-footer-margin:35.45pt; mso-paper-source:0;} div.Section1 {page:Section1;} --> </style><!--[if gte mso 10]> <style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0cm 5.4pt 0cm 5.4pt; mso-para-margin:0cm; mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:10.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language:#0400; mso-fareast-language:#0400; mso-bidi-language:#0400;} </style> <![endif]--> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;"><span style=";font-family:Arial;font-size:85%;color:black;" >Friend: '</span><span style="font-size:85%;"><i><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);font-family:Arial;" >Any plan for Christmas</span></i></span><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);font-family:Arial;font-size:85%;" >?'</span><span style="font-family:Arial;"><span style="font-size:85%;"><br /></span><span style=";font-size:85%;color:black;" >Me : </span><span style="font-size:85%;"><i><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">'Nope. I think I will just go to the church'</span></i><br /></span><span style=";font-size:85%;color:black;" >Friend: <i>'</i></span><span style="font-size:85%;"><i><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">Same here. Maybe I should just clean up my room, watch </span></i></span><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);font-size:85%;" >Sang Pemimpi<i>. I also want to go for star gazing'.</i></span><span style="font-size:85%;"><br /></span><span style=";font-size:85%;color:black;" >Me: </span><span style="font-size:85%;"><i><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">'I guess it might be good, to have a real 'silent-night' Christmas'</span></i></span><br /><span style="font-family: arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 102);font-size:85%;" ><br /></span></span></p><div style="text-align: justify; font-family: arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 102);"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 102);font-size:85%;" >It's christmas time and all around we can hear those typical Christmas songs played over and over again. O Holy Night, God Bless Ye Merry, Gentleman, in one CD with Last Christmas. Well, it maybe a loss or it could be a gain, when artists created Christmas songs without any philosophical thought on the born baby (arbitrarily celebrated on 25th December). Songs like Blue Christmas, All I Want For Christmas is You, Last Christmas, and even Christmas Song and Jingle Bells. They are nice songs with nice tune and they make you miss your family and beloved ones *snob. </span><span style="font-size:85%;"><br /></span></div><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt; font-family: arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 102);"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);font-size:85%;" ><br /></span></p><div style="text-align: justify; font-family: arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 102);"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 102);font-size:85%;" >It is a loss. Those songs simply put Christmas as a mark of seasonal holidays and celebrations. As a child, I think of Christmas as a time for shopping, gifts, new clothes and shoes, decorated trees, illuminations, a short speech of some short biblical prophetic verses and of course holidays. As a teenage girl, I welcome Christmas with anxiety (am I wearing perfect gown?), whimsical thought of mistletoe, unique card greetings, hectic and haste for extravagance parties and ceremonies, and maybe a little bit of (just a bit) of contemplation<span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 102);">. </span></span><span style="font-size:85%;"><br /></span></div><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt; color: rgb(0, 0, 102); font-family: arial;"><span style=";font-size:85%;" ><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"><br /></span></span></p><div style="text-align: justify; font-family: arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 102);"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 102);font-size:85%;" ><span style="color: rgb(51, 102, 102);">While now, I embrace Christmas (again) as a mark of the end of the year, and (again) holidays. It's the end of my contract, my job, and the beginning of series of wandering journey to come. It's the time to call all families (including the long ignored ones), emails writing, to delete messages from my cell phone inbox, to 'pay homage' to church. It's the time for some bogus 'love' celebrations, for some kids perform dance and drama for the sake of big grin on the old folks faces and sometimes for routine caroling. It's not wrong, though</span>. </span><span style="font-size:85%;"><br /></span></div><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt; font-family: arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 102);"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);font-size:85%;" ><br /></span></p><div style="text-align: justify; font-family: arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 102);"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 102);font-size:85%;" >Since weeks ago, my friends has been ringing the ultimate question 'What do you plan for Christmas?'. I have been asking it too. So where's the savior, where's the sacrifice, where's the humility of being a mere human, where's the contemplation of grace, where's the praise for Divine humbleness? Where's the baby Jesus? If you're lucky you can find him on your church decorations, still lying on the manger. </span><span style="font-size:85%;"><br /></span></div><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt; font-family: arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 102);"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);font-size:85%;" ><br /></span><span style=";font-size:85%;" >It seems to me, we lose some Christ in our Christmas. Christ is only present in the wording: Christ-mas</span><span style="font-size:85%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p style="text-align: justify; font-family: arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 102);" class="MsoNormal"><span style=";font-size:85%;" >The songs are not to be solely blamed. No, it's just a tiny part of this whole thing (I don't know what to call it) of worn-out, tiring Christmas. I can find some orientalism here :). It's totally pervasive. It's everywhere. It's your decorations, it's your longing for winter (most of us never even see snow shower, and many will never have the chance), it's your feeling of lunatic loneliness (is Christmas designed to be the time for family?). And its mine as well. But to condemn those pervasive 'western' cultures (you may call it) is the same pathetic orientalism. </span><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);font-size:85%;" ><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt; font-family: arial; color: rgb(0, 0, 102);"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);font-size:85%;" ><br /></span></p><div style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(0, 0, 102); font-family: arial;"><span style="color: rgb(51, 102, 102);font-size:85%;" >So, anyway, what's the gain? Well, I can give you a long list of how fun it is to have this kind of Christmas. Holidays, new clothes, gifts. But that's what you call our loss, you may protest. That's it! I am driven to think of all those losses simply as my negative perspective (I have to admit, I can be very cynical -most of the times-). For now, at least, by realizing those losses (which came from my negative perspective) I come to the part where I start to think over the whole ideas of Christmas. </span><span style="font-size:85%;"><br /></span></div><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 102); font-family: arial;font-family:Arial;font-size:85%;" ><br /></span><span style="font-family:Arial;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 102); font-family: arial;font-size:85%;" >And so, my first attempt will depart from the above conversations between me and my friend. "I guess it might be good, to have a real 'silent-night' Christmas". It was (I'm 99% sure) a silent night. :)</span><br /><br /><br /><span style="color:black;">ANYWAY, Happy Christmas and Happy Holiday, everyone!</span><br /><span style="font-size:85%;"><br /></span><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-style: italic;font-size:85%;" >~Welcome To Our World, by Michael W Smith~<br /><br />Tears are falling, hearts are breaking<br />How we need to hear from God<br />You've been promised, we've been waiting<br />Welcome Holy Child<br />Welcome Holy Child<br /><br />Hope that you don't mind our manger<br />How I wish we would have known<br />But long-awaited Holy Stranger<br />Make Yourself at home<br />Please make Yourself at hom</span><span style="font-size:85%;"><span style="font-style: italic;">e</span></span><span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0); font-style: italic;font-size:85%;" ><br /><br />Bring Your peace into our violence<br />Bid our hungry souls be filled<br />Word now breaking Heaven's silence<br />Welcome to our world<br />Welcome to our world<br /><br />Fragile finger sent to heal us<br />Tender brow prepared for thorn<br />Tiny heart whose blood will save us<br />Unto us is born<br />Unto us is born<br /><br />So wrap our injured flesh around You<br />Breathe our air and walk our sod<br />Rob our sin and make us holy<br />Perfect Son of God<br />Perfect Son of God<br />Welcome to our world</span><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Arial;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p>The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6927296908368936895.post-8689105619372213192009-12-21T20:16:00.000-08:002009-12-21T21:21:56.497-08:00A Good Investment<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsYnDGK1u59XVdv39XScMdIbS_A5ZqqC7NAnB09v5waPVLqYWUPpHDGedtVhQOBSgtuS02-E1ge8Z2IViCXYr1A8eiZKvq9y10S-560e6ETm4V_2r3buMd5Dwae0dWmkEx85ovrFa7yAs/s1600-h/brooke4.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 247px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsYnDGK1u59XVdv39XScMdIbS_A5ZqqC7NAnB09v5waPVLqYWUPpHDGedtVhQOBSgtuS02-E1ge8Z2IViCXYr1A8eiZKvq9y10S-560e6ETm4V_2r3buMd5Dwae0dWmkEx85ovrFa7yAs/s320/brooke4.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5417926274307447986" border="0" /></a><br /><div style="text-align: justify;"><img src="file:///C:/DOCUME%7E1/User/LOCALS%7E1/Temp/moz-screenshot-2.png" alt="" />One day, I went somewhere on vacation with my fam. This conversation was happened while we were riding the narrow road among plateaus, green pasture, hundreds small houses. It was between my mom and my youngest sister Audy (10 years old).<br /><br /><span style="font-family:georgia;">Audy: <span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">This place is amazing !!!</span> (</span><span style="font-style: italic;font-family:georgia;" >amazed and wowing through the window</span><span style="font-family:georgia;">). <span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">I wonder if there's any place more wonderful than this one. </span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:georgia;">Mom: <span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">Sure lot! You haven't place your feet on more than 4 provinces yet and that's only in Indonesia. </span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:georgia;">Audy: <span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">Yeaah! That's it, Mom!! I'm gonna get rich someday and travel all around Indonesia.. no...no... all around the world</span> (</span><span style="font-style: italic;font-family:georgia;" >showing greedy grin</span><span style="font-family:georgia;">) </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:georgia;">Mom: <span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">Money doesn't grow on tree! Study well then!! Maybe you can bring me somewhere around the globe</span> (</span><span style="font-style: italic;font-family:georgia;" >was trying to motivate my idly Audy</span><span style="font-family:georgia;">) </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:georgia;">Audy: (</span><span style="font-style: italic;font-family:georgia;" >after a few moments of silence</span><span style="font-family:georgia;">) <span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">I know now!!! You made many kids of your own so that when they grow up, you can take a lot from them. Travel here and there, buy this and that. So I understand now, that's what parents think of. But I ain't gonna fooled <span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">(</span><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-style: italic;">snuffled</span><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">)</span>. Sorry Mom, my own is mine! </span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:georgia;">Mom: (</span><span style="font-style: italic;font-family:georgia;" >shrugged</span><span style="font-family:georgia;">) <span style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);">You're not really a good investment </span>(</span><span style="font-style: italic;font-family:georgia;" >smiled to my pop who grinned, really did enjoy the conversation</span><span style="font-family:georgia;">) </span><br /><br />And so for me, that short conversation epitomizes the whole bunch of scholarly discourses, discontents, debates, and dialectics on children and childhood. Is kid a mere investment to her parents? Are children important because society invest a lot on them, on their childhood?<br /><br />Or could it be that there no such thing as investment in childhood, it is just nothing more than investment in adulthood? Since children are matter because their potentiality of being the next adults (to work painstakingly to pay for parents pension :D )?<br /><br />I'm gonna write about it<br />...someday...<br /><br />#I'm not any better investment too :)<br /><br />*<a href="http://materialgirlsblog.com/dallas/category/art/page/2/">picture</a><br /></div>The Quirkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04795676497790287856noreply@blogger.com0